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Jess Sounds Off

HBO’s “Girls” Don’t Date, Either – Preview!

Posted by  Jess

Not only will the jobs, clothes, apartments and friendships in HBO’s new series “Girls” remind you of your own, but the ladies’ f**ked up post-dating love lives will look pretty familiar to you, too.

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, On Modern Women, Television
Apr 13, 2012
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  • Ask Jess

    Ask Jess #21: How Should I Respond to His Mixed Signals?

    Posted by  Jess

    Dear Jess – I have a problem that might be pretty common – because it seems like all my friends have had this problem as well. There’s a guy in my life who I just CANNOT FIGURE OUT.

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    Topics: Non-Dates, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives, The Gaggle
    Apr 9, 2012
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  • Ask Jess #21: How Should I Respond to His Mixed Signals?
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  • *Ask Jess #15: What Does His Facebook Wall Post Meeeeean?!
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  • Ask Jess #16: Who Is He In My Gaggle?!
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  • Ask Jess #5! Can I Redeem Myself After Hooking Up With His Friend?
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  • Bachelorette Gaggle Re-Cap

    Ben’s Season of The Bachelor – Now Illustrated (with Snark!)

    Posted by  Jess

    Wondering why I didn’t re-cap The Bachelor this past season? Because everything you needed to know was already covered in this (shockingly realistic and hysterical) sketchbook by illustrator Lisa Hanawalt!

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    Topics: Celeb Buzz, Television, The Gaggle
    Apr 2, 2012
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    More from the Bachelorette Gaggle Re-Cap
  • The Bachelorette: The Final Post-Dating Recap. Now On Twitter!
    Posted by Jess
  • Jess in The Huffington Post: Why We’re Addicted to The Bachelorette
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  • The Bachelorette: The Second Ever Post-Dating Recap (And The Third. My Bad)
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  • The Bachelorette: The Second-To-Last Post-Dating Recap
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  • Jess Sounds Off

    Online Dating’s Most Horrible Horror Stories

    Posted by  Jess

    What’s your worst post-dating story? Yeah, that’s not that bad. These are worse.

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    Topics: Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives, Techno-Romance, WTF?! Online Dating Series
    Mar 13, 2012
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  • In Defense of the Non-Date
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  • Jess Sounds Off

    My Birthday Present from McSweeney’s

    Posted by  Jess

    Happy Birthday to ME!

    Just in time for my **holysh**t!!** 29th birthday today, McSweeney’s has published “An Open Letter to People Who Judge My Single, Post-College Lifestyle” – thereby validating many of my (and quite possibly your) recent life decisions. Thanks guys! This will help me sleep better during my first night as a 29-year-old.

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives
    Mar 5, 2012
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    Ask Jess #20: How Can I Meet (the Right) Men?

    Posted by  Jess

    Dear(est Understanding) Jess. What does a girl have to do to meet men these days?! Or at least, the right men. I am starting to loooooose hope. All of it. The belief I once had in love, and all its power, has been replaced by bitterness after an endless string of one-night stands and stupid [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Non-Dates, The Gaggle
    Feb 22, 2012
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  • Ask Jess #2! Why Is She Telling Me About Other Guys?
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  • Ask Jess #7! How Can I Get Him To Slow Things Down Without Losing Him?
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  • Ask Jess

    Ask Jess: Valentine’s Day Edition!

    Posted by  Jess

    Question: How should I handle being single on Valentine’s Day? You know, without feeling lonely or desperate, or convincing myself that I’m destined to become a bitter, self-loathing spinster? Answer: Read my advice in a new article – 5 Tips for Being Happily Single on Valentine’s Day – that went up today as an Editor’s Pick [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives, WTF?! Press
    Feb 13, 2012
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  • Ask Jess #13: Can Gaggles Overlap Without Causing Jealousy and Awkwardness?
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  • Celeb Buzz

    Fantasy Football Gaggle: Super Bowl XLVI Edition

    Posted by  Jess

    The Super Bowl! Both a great American pastime, and a perfect excuse for a group-non-date (who hasn’t met a cute guy at a Super Bowl party?). We here at WTF?! are based in New York, and so of course we were thrilled to see the Giants pull out a nail-biting win over the Patriots last [...]

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    Topics: Celeb Buzz, The Gaggle
    Feb 6, 2012
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  • Non-Date Snapshot #3! The E-Non-Date
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    Ask Jess #18: My Ego Booster Kissed Me – Can I Still Keep Him as an Ego Booster?

    Posted by  Jess

    Dear Jess, I recently moved to a new city and have been re-building my gaggle here. So far, so good! Until last night, when one of the guys in my new gaggle kissed me. I had been thinking of him as an Ego Booster, and I didn’t really want to kiss him back. But in [...]

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    Topics: The Gaggle
    Jan 20, 2012
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    Ask Jess #1! How Should I Deal With Him Suddenly Avoiding Me?

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    Dear Jess, I’ve been hanging out with this guy – a mutual friend introduced us because we work in the same industry and I was looking to switch jobs, so she thought that he might be able to help me out.  We immediately hit it off, and after a few coffees and happy hours, we [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, On Modern Women, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives
    Jan 11, 2012
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    Ask Jess #4! Should I Feel Guilty About Talking To Another Guy?

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    Dear Jess, I shared a cigarette with a guy at work yesterday, and now I feel really guilty about it. I’ve been in a relationship for over a year and I love my boyfriend. Am I an asshole? Why didn’t I see this coming? The other guy was obviously trying to get close to me…I [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women, The Gaggle
    Jan 10, 2012
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  • Millennial Take On Love

    An Ode to Manly Men (and Independent Women)

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    “Yes, you are independent and you don’t need anyone to take out the trash for you or hang your pictures or run to the Home Depot and pick up the supplies you need to fix your sink. But I lie to you not: if you put your finger in your mouth and act like you [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, On Modern Women
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