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Jess Sounds Off

A New Definition of Cheating: What’s Trust Got To Do (Got To Do) With It?

Posted by  Jess

To cheat or not to cheat? Oh, if only that was the only question. Once upon a time, in the potentially mythical era where romantic boundaries were clear and Rules were staid and everyone was running around in poodle skirts and varsity letter pins (wait, Grease wasn’t a documentary?!), cheating was a contained issue. You [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Post-Dating Glossary, WTF?! Wall of Shame
Mar 4, 2011
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    Ask Jess #14: Should My Ex and I Give Our Relationship Another Try?

    Posted by  Jess

    In the post-dating world, it’s rare for something to be “official” (until it is…). Likewise, even when things are officially “over,” they’re often not. Labels, schmabels. Enter the Ex-Boyfriend Who’s Still Around. He’s in your gaggle for a reason. And sometimes, the reason is that you’re just not quite done with each other yet. In the [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, The Gaggle
    Feb 15, 2011
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    Ask Jess #14: Should My Ex and I Give Our Relationship Another Try?

    Posted by  Jess

    Dear Jess, Here’s some news – I’m sort of seeing my Ex again. He’s been in my gaggle for a few months as the Ex-Boyfriend Who’s Still Around, but things feel like they’re getting into serious territory again. If I’m being honest, he’s back in Boyfriend Prospect territory. It remains to be seen if this [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, The Gaggle
    Feb 15, 2011
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  • Ask Jess #21: How Should I Respond to His Mixed Signals?
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  • Jess in the Huffington Post

    Jess in The Huffington Post: A Non-Athlete’s Ode to the Women of Winter X Games 15

    Posted by  Jess

    When the WTF?! ladies hit up the Winter X Games 15 in Aspen last week, I expected all our focus to be directed at the male hot skiers, snowboarders and snowmobilers conquering the slopes (and our hearts?). What I didn’t anticipate was that I would fall just as much – if not more so – [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women
    Feb 6, 2011
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    Ask Jess #13: Can Gaggles Overlap Without Causing Jealousy and Awkwardness?

    Posted by  Jess

    We modern Millennial women love each other! Don’t we…? Nothing tests the bonds of female friendship like a cute boy. And amidst the ambiguity and mixed signals and “does he or doesn’t he?” confusion of the post-dating world, the opportunities for stepping on each others’ sensitive, ego-infested toes have only grown in number. Sure, you [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women, The Gaggle
    Jan 31, 2011
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  • Ask Jess #12: How Can I Politely Blow Off A Friend-Of-A-Friend?
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    Ask Jess #4! Should I Feel Guilty About Talking To Another Guy?

    Posted by  Jess

    This girl is talking to another guy… Is that cheating? Should she feel guilty? We revisit a favorite Ask Jess. Next time you’re trying to read some guy’s mind or looking into Magic 8 Balls for answers, just send your quandary over to WTF?!. I guarantee that my advice is better than a Magic 8 [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women, The Gaggle
    Jan 27, 2011
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  • Jess Sounds Off

    WTF?! Classic: Is Infidelity Inevitable?

    Posted by  Jess

    The internet is abuzz today with coverage of GQ’s exclusive interview with Rielle Hunter, the woman best known as ex-presidential candidate John Edwards’s mistress and baby mama. Apart from the pantsless photos (watch out, Lady Gaga!), the most shocking part of this article is Hunter’s determination to stand by her finely-coiffed man, despite his continued [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, WTF?! Wall of Shame
    Jan 26, 2011
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    WTF?! Classic: Smart Guys Won’t Cheat On You! (So Says Science)

    Posted by  Jess

    As if smart guys weren’t hot enough. According to a study that was recently featured on CNN.com (thanks to the always colorful Strongarm Gibbs for the heads up!), people with high IQs are more likely to be liberal and atheist than conservative and religious. More interestingly – for the purposes of this site, at least [...]

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    Topics: Let's Talk About Sex, Millennial Take On Love
    Jan 25, 2011
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    Jess in The Huffington Post: Billy Baldwin, Skype Sex, and Why Technology Is Saving Long-Distance Romance

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    You know that awesome guy from 30 Rock? The one who, in real life, has a bunch of seemingly interchangeable brothers? Well, one of his siblings just got much cooler. Billy Baldwin admitted – no, declared – in a recent interview that he has Skype sex with his wife! See, even married couples want in [...]

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    Topics: Let's Talk About Sex, Millennial Take On Love, Techno-Romance
    Jan 17, 2011
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    OkCupid Wants You To Be Uglier! Here’s The Truth About Hotness

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    “We now have mathematical evidence that minimizing your “flaws” is the opposite of what you should do. If you’re a little chubby, play it up. If you have a big nose, play it up. If you have a weird snaggletooth, play it up…” – OkCupid Moment of honesty: I’ve never, in my entire 27-year-old life, [...]

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    Topics: Millennial Take On Love, WTF?! Online Dating Series
    Jan 14, 2011
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    Ask Jess #15: What Does His Facebook Wall Post Meeeeean?!

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    People LOVE to ask me what question I hear most often – during my travels, in my inbox, and catching up with my dear friends over wine and mac & cheese (we’re a classy bunch). Is it, How can I find a boyfriend? Or, Why hasn’t he asked me out on a date? How about, [...]

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    Topics: Techno-Romance
    Jan 8, 2011
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    Ask Jess #13: Can Gaggles Overlap Without Causing Jealousy and Awkwardness?

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    Dear Jess, I have a guy in my gaggle who has served as a combination Ego Booster/Accessory, and I’m fairly sure that I fill the same role in his.  Neither of us have expressed a particularly strong attraction to one another, but I definitely turn to him for much-needed compliments after a blow-off and we often [...]

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    Topics: On Modern Women, The Gaggle
    Jan 7, 2011
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