The Gaggle

who’s in it? how does it work? what does it mean?


Dear(est Understanding) Jess. What does a girl have to do to meet men these days?! Or at least, the right men. I am starting to loooooose hope. All of it. The belief I once had in love, and all its power, has been replaced by bitterness after an endless string of one-night stands and stupid [...]




What do you get when you put 900 Type-As into a business school atmosphere? A unique dating pool, to say the least. So as a woman in b-school, your gaggle will probably look like some combination of the following.




The Super Bowl! Both a great American pastime, and a perfect excuse for a group-non-date (who hasn’t met a cute guy at a Super Bowl party?). We here at WTF?! are based in New York, and so of course we were thrilled to see the Giants pull out a nail-biting win over the Patriots last [...]




When I was 13 years old, I fell in love.  It was the summer of 1997, and I was just days from turning 14.  My family was on vacation in Maine, at a campsite with a bunch of random families, and a tall, handsome boy approached me and my (annoying) little brother and asked if [...]




A fairy tale it is not. In truth, it is pretty f*cked up. And by it, I mean my love life. Your love life. Our (collective) love lives in the post-dating world. It’s been nine months since I’ve last written about the Hot Sex Prospects, OK Cupid Paramours, Guys Who Just Blew Me Off, and [...]




Dear Jess, I recently moved to a new city and have been re-building my gaggle here. So far, so good! Until last night, when one of the guys in my new gaggle kissed me. I had been thinking of him as an Ego Booster, and I didn’t really want to kiss him back. But in [...]




Dear Readers, Jess & Becky here! We’re excited to let you know that WTF?! will be re-launching THIS WEEK. Stay tuned for stories, thoughts, wisdom, advice, commiseration and celebration of YOUR f*cked up love life! It may be a new year, but the post-dating world seems to be as it ever was… xo J&B WTF [...]




Dear Jess, I shared a cigarette with a guy at work yesterday, and now I feel really guilty about it. I’ve been in a relationship for over a year and I love my boyfriend. Am I an asshole? Why didn’t I see this coming? The other guy was obviously trying to get close to me…I [...]




Oh man, is it Heartbreak Week here at WTF?! or what? First, The Bachelorette sobbed on the beach. Then everyone cried over yesterday’s guest blog. And now one of our readers is finding it impossible to get over her ex.  Sometimes amidst the fun of the post-dating world, it can be easy to forget that [...]




Oh, Becky. Becky, Becky, Becky. These lectures are usually given within the confines of Becky’s beautiful Brooklyn abode, or my East Village shoebox. In fact, this entire project was started and inspired by a similarly frank talking-to, one that took place in sweats over a few glasses of wine on the couch. But this time, [...]




I’m in love! The deep, profound, stirring, giggly, excitable, crazy, starry-eyed kind of love. I wasn’t expecting to find it when I walked into the new Apple store on 67th & Broadway – I certainly wasn’t expecting to purchase it for $499 – but there it was. Love at first site. Love at first (i)Touch. [...]




Follow me on Twitter @jessmassa to read my daily Post-Dating Tips in real time! As the WTF?! tour closed out this week (!), I dissected the welcoming social scene in Minneapolis, drove for a million hours towards Indianapolis, and finally made it home to NYC in time to d.a.n.c.e. at Becky’s birthday party. Find hints [...]



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