Ask nothing, but give

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Becky

From our original archives! Please forgive any old links and formatting quirks.

We’ve spent a lot of time on this site talking about romantic confusion and ambiguity – and wondering why an optimistic and empowered generation like ours can have love lives that are so fucked up. I’m all for figuring this out. I think imposing order on the chaos and talking about the post-dating world really helps us understand what’s going on. And when I look at my gaggle, I can see how my relationships with these guys (and these guys, and these guys and these guys…ok, fine, I have a Guy Who Just Blew Me Off – or 7) fulfill different parts of myself and help me to realize and understand my own complexity.

So I feel entitled to understanding, and to a rich, fulfilling romantic life – if I work for it. But none of us can feel entitled to LOVE. It’s not something bestowed upon us; it’s not something we earn, or deserve. Yet, we crave it, and we know it’s there.

Love will come to us. It finds us at unexpected times, or when we’re making other plans. Love comes from giving love. It’s not an expectation, people, more like a prayer.

Thought
Henry Dumas

Love came to me and said:
What do you want of me?
Save me I said, save me.
Love knelt down beside me
and love said:
If you knew the price
of coming to you,
you would ask nothing
but would give.

May 16, 2010

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