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An Ode to Manly Men (and Independent Women)

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“Yes, you are independent and you don’t need anyone to take out the trash for you or hang your pictures or run to the Home Depot and pick up the supplies you need to fix your sink. But I lie to you not: if you put your finger in your mouth and act like you [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, On Modern Women
Jan 6, 2012
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Odes

Ode to A**holes, Part 2: Why I Believe That Most Guys Are Not Inherently A**holes

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Jess

Missed Ode to A**holes, Part 1? Read it HERE first! “Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.” – John Steinbeck So we’ve established that, from time to time, guys can act like [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love
May 30, 2011
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Odes

Ode to A**holes

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Jess

“Men aren’t assholes. But men can be assholes.” – Scott, 30, Healthcare Worker and WTF?! Interviewee We Millennials are good at many things (modesty not being one of them, obviously). We’re especially good at, well, being good at things that other people assume we will be good at. Let me say that in English: we [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love
Apr 21, 2011
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Odes

Screw You, Becky. I’m Not (Usually) An SJP – PART 2

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Jess

So here we are at Becky’s real question – how to diversify your gaggle? I keep a dollar worth of dimes You know pimpin’ ain’t easy More bullet points, you say?  My pleasure. *Do a gaggle inventory. Start by going through each category of gaggle guy – Boyfriend Prospect, Unavailable Guy, etc. – and see [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives, Post-Dating Glossary, The Gaggle
Sep 23, 2010
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Odes

Screw You, Becky. I’m Not (Usually) An SJP – PART 1

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Jess

Here’s a fun little piece of Jess trivia: my 8th grade yearbook superlative was “Future Lawyer.”  I remember being so pissed about this at the time, as I’d spent years gunning for the “Future Athlete” title (I was the runner-up, but what athlete cares about second place??).  Law was for nerds. And besides, what did [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives, Post-Dating Glossary, The Gaggle
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Odes

An Ode To Players

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“You know I – Thug ‘em, hug ‘em, love ‘em, leave ‘em But I don’t trust or need ‘em” Most of us think we can spot a player – right? We’ve seen the music videos and the movies.  We’ve scrolled through the endless list of girls in their phones. We’ve caught them with their omnipresent [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Post-Dating Glossary
Sep 7, 2010
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Jess Sounds Off

Fantasy Football Gaggle: Super Bowl XLVI Edition

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Jess

The Super Bowl! Both a great American pastime, and a perfect excuse for a group-non-date (who hasn’t met a cute guy at a Super Bowl party?). We here at WTF?! are based in New York, and so of course we were thrilled to see the Giants pull out a nail-biting win over the Patriots last [...]

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Topics: Celeb Buzz, The Gaggle
Feb 6, 2012
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Jess Sounds Off

So…Who’s Not In Your Gaggle? (HINT: Your iPad)

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Jess

Oh, Becky. Becky, Becky, Becky. These lectures are usually given within the confines of Becky’s beautiful Brooklyn abode, or my East Village shoebox. In fact, this entire project was started and inspired by a similarly frank talking-to, one that took place in sweats over a few glasses of wine on the couch. But this time, [...]

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Topics: On Modern Women, The Gaggle
Aug 16, 2011
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Jess Sounds Off

10 Lessons My Father Taught Me About Relationships

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I’m lucky: my father is awesome. Yes, he has his flaws, as all people do. But if I stop acting like a too-cool-for-school teenager and pretending to roll my eyes at his embarrassing antics for a moment, I can admit that his flaws are really, truly nothing to write home about. He’s simply a great [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, On Modern Women, Outtakes from Our %^&# Love Lives
Jun 19, 2011
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Jess Sounds Off

A New Definition of Cheating: What’s Trust Got To Do (Got To Do) With It?

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Jess

To cheat or not to cheat? Oh, if only that was the only question. Once upon a time, in the potentially mythical era where romantic boundaries were clear and Rules were staid and everyone was running around in poodle skirts and varsity letter pins (wait, Grease wasn’t a documentary?!), cheating was a contained issue. You [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, Post-Dating Glossary, WTF?! Wall of Shame
Mar 4, 2011
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Jess Sounds Off

WTF?! Classic: Is Infidelity Inevitable?

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The internet is abuzz today with coverage of GQ’s exclusive interview with Rielle Hunter, the woman best known as ex-presidential candidate John Edwards’s mistress and baby mama. Apart from the pantsless photos (watch out, Lady Gaga!), the most shocking part of this article is Hunter’s determination to stand by her finely-coiffed man, despite his continued [...]

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Topics: Millennial Take On Love, WTF?! Wall of Shame
Jan 26, 2011
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Jess Sounds Off

WTF?! Classic: Smart Guys Won’t Cheat On You! (So Says Science)

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As if smart guys weren’t hot enough. According to a study that was recently featured on CNN.com (thanks to the always colorful Strongarm Gibbs for the heads up!), people with high IQs are more likely to be liberal and atheist than conservative and religious. More interestingly – for the purposes of this site, at least [...]

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Topics: Let's Talk About Sex, Millennial Take On Love
Jan 25, 2011
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